Anke Kalaiah, LMFT
Trauma-informed LMFT for families and relationships
- Trauma and abuse
- Family and relationship therapy
- English and German
About Anke Kalaiah
Anke Kalaiah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who brings 15 years of clinical experience to her practice in California. She combines a client-centered stance with evidence-based skills to help people navigate stress, anxiety, relationship and family challenges, trauma and abuse, parenting concerns, addictions, grief, and mood disorders such as depression and bipolar disorder. As an immigrant with a bachelor degree in German and Socialpsychology from Ruhr University in Bochum and a master degree in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University (2011), she is attuned to the complexities of cultural assimilation, multicultural families, and issues common to expatriates and immigrants.
Anke earned her LMFT license in 2014 and works with individuals and families across the life span, addressing domestic violence, sexual abuse, family of origin issues, blended family dynamics, divorce and coparenting challenges, and intimacy-related concerns. Her practice emphasizes strengths-based and solutions-focused work, helping people identify existing resources and build practical strategies to manage emotions, improve communication, and restore functioning after difficult life events.
Therapeutically, she draws on Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), mindfulness practices, and motivational interviewing to tailor care to each person’s needs. She has experience supporting clients through abandonment and attachment issues, caregiver stress, codependency, addiction-related problems, and the particular dynamics of BDSM, kink, and alternative sexual cultures. Anke provides services in English and German and works with a broad range of ages and cultural backgrounds to support healing, skill-building, and better relational outcomes.
Anke earned her LMFT license in 2014 and works with individuals and families across the life span, addressing domestic violence, sexual abuse, family of origin issues, blended family dynamics, divorce and coparenting challenges, and intimacy-related concerns. Her practice emphasizes strengths-based and solutions-focused work, helping people identify existing resources and build practical strategies to manage emotions, improve communication, and restore functioning after difficult life events.
Therapeutically, she draws on Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), mindfulness practices, and motivational interviewing to tailor care to each person’s needs. She has experience supporting clients through abandonment and attachment issues, caregiver stress, codependency, addiction-related problems, and the particular dynamics of BDSM, kink, and alternative sexual cultures. Anke provides services in English and German and works with a broad range of ages and cultural backgrounds to support healing, skill-building, and better relational outcomes.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
AddictionsLGBTGriefIntimacy-related issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional Focus Areas
AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAttachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesCaregiver issues and stressCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDivorce and separationDomestic violenceFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameImmigration issuesInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationSelf-loveSexual assault and abuseSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic Approach
Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Mindfulness Therapy Motivational Interviewing Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Anke Kalaiah have?
Anke Kalaiah has 15 years of clinical experience.
Is Anke Kalaiah a licensed therapist?
Yes. She is an LMFT, which stands for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. License details: CA LMFT 88556.
In which languages does Anke Kalaiah provide therapy?
She provides therapy in English and German.
Where is Anke Kalaiah located?
Anke Kalaiah is located in California.
How can I work with Anke Kalaiah as my therapist?
You can work with Anke Kalaiah through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Anke Kalaiah work with international clients?
Anke Kalaiah does not currently work with international clients.
How much does therapy with Anke Kalaiah cost?
The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Therapeutic Approaches and Online Care
Client-Centered Therapy places the client’s experience at the center of the work, prioritizing empathy, respect, and collaboration so people can determine their own path forward; it is helpful for relationship concerns, identity exploration, and finding direction during life changes.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on the connections between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, offering practical tools to challenge unhelpful thinking and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression or maladaptive coping patterns.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) teaches concrete skills in mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness, which can be especially useful for intense mood swings, interpersonal conflict, and improving day-to-day functioning.
Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic journey, and Anke works collaboratively with each person to tailor techniques to their goals, preferences, and life context. She helps clients experiment with strategies and adjusts the plan as progress unfolds.
Online therapy with a licensed professional offers flexibility and accessibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. These options can make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules, maintain continuity during transitions, and stay connected from different locations while receiving consistent therapeutic support.